I am not beautiful. I don't consider myself that way.
I don't like my face, I can't look at it.
I am very sensitive to conversations about guys. When a friend talks about what kind of guys write to her. About what an excellent figure she has and in itself she is almost an ideal. She seems to be saying with this: “But no one writes to you, dear. And no one needs you. And you’re ugly.”
She knows how to communicate, I think. She talks constantly. Such a chatterbox.
I don't envy her. I really like my figure, my voice, the fact that inside I am completely different from others. But this also prevents me from communicating with others. People don't even look at me, I think.
People like me are called gray mice. And people like my friend are sociable, open, almost the life of the company.
The differences are obvious, although I understand that there is no need to compare. After all, I’m not like that, I know people shouldn’t be identical.
But I don’t understand what I should do. Nobody likes me, not even myself.

I don’t understand why everyone likes you? What is the goal?

Don’t be fooled by your friend’s stories about her “supposedly” boyfriends. Maybe in fact, no one really needs it. You think her chatter doesn’t bother her, but some people do. Beautiful, not beautiful - who decided that, you yourself? So this is not an indicator yet. A successful hairstyle, correctly selected makeup and clothes and voila - you are a beauty. Haven’t you really seen a single “reboot” type program? so everything you say is not final yet. Don't look at your friend. Follow your path. you know, many of these girls are so beautiful and smart and talkative, but there is no happiness in life. Because they are capricious, arrogant and too proud. Don't be like that. And everything that is written there about the fact that no one needs you is complete nonsense, which you invented for yourself. maybe not today, but tomorrow everything will be different and no one will need her. So put it all out of your head. Invent yourself a guy and tell her how wonderful everything is with you, then you can say that he went to another country to study or for work... but you never know what kind of story you can make up, so much so that she will envy you.

Until you begin to accept and love yourself, you will always have problems communicating with other people. Work on yourself to love yourself. Tell yourself every day how beautiful and wonderful you are. Give yourself all sorts of compliments. Admire your reflection in the mirror, smile at yourself. Remember you deserve happiness and love. Try the affirmation technique. Choose a few affirmations that will resonate with you and say them every day, but the most important thing is to believe in what you say. And you will notice how everything changes!

Your friend is not as confident in herself as she seems, otherwise she would support you, and not assert herself at your expense! Maybe she knows how to communicate with guys, but not with you.

As for the unsociable, everything is exactly the same with my friend)) we recently found out that I envied her all my life, and she envied me))
Try to open up more to people and men, try to first train on those you don’t particularly like (this way you won’t be embarrassed).
If you have a good friend, ask her for help with advice or go to a psychologist.
Regarding appearance: It’s hard to say without seeing you. I am a makeup artist and stylist myself and could give some advice.
If you don’t like the shape of your face (an oval is considered ideal), then bangs and wavy hair are good for a rectangular face, soft strands around the face for a square, clear lines beveled forward for example for a round face.
If you have a long nose, apply dark powder to the tip; if you have a short nose, lighten it. If it is wide, you darken the wings of the nose, if it is narrow, you lighten it.
If your face is narrow, use highlighter.
If you have a heavy chin, it is better not to wear long hair.
If your face shape is pear-shaped, hoop earrings look beautiful.
Eyes are a separate issue! With dark eyes, beautiful golden and green shadows and eyeliners. With light purple, emerald, sparkling blue, deep blue, plum (you need to look).
If your eyes are large, don't be afraid of wide, dark eyeliner and mascara. If they are narrow, do not do smokey eyes, it is better to have thin winged eyeliner and delicate sparkling shadows.
Don't forget to apply masks (moisturizing) and cleanse your skin with soft peeling.
And if you write anything)

1) Paint your hair blonde (you will immediately be noticed and your face will look fresher). Only in a cold tone. Because yellowness looks collective farm.; 2) Read how to do makeup correctly for your eye shape and your face shape; 3) Buy the necessary arsenal of cosmetics for this; 4) if you have cheeks, go on a diet; 4) consult with a specialist which eyebrow shape suits you; 5) remove all hair from the face except eyebrows and eyelashes, that is, nose hair that is visible and mustache. 6) If you have problem skin, then go to a dermatologist, Zenerit helped me a lot. You can go to an appointment with a cosmetologist to have your skin cleaned, it’s not that expensive. 7) sign up for a solarium (chocolate shade looks attractive)

you hid behind a wall, and people look at you and don’t see you, because they are also used to it, break it, everyone will have a blast)

You need to get rid of your complexes. The main thing is to remain yourself. Understand, you are who you are, and in order to change something in yourself you need very good reasons. And as a rule, gray mice, as you say, are usually very happy in their personal lives, family, and the beauty, the soul of the company, can remain lonely for a long time. I'm sure you have something that your friend doesn't have. Be happy!

Well, for starters, you shouldn’t decide for others whether they like you or not. beauty is a subjective concept. focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses; besides, everyone has weaknesses.
Most likely no one is looking at you, not because you won’t be bothered by them outwardly, but because you are unsure of yourself, and perhaps closed off from people. If you can’t love yourself, then at least don’t spread rot. try to communicate with people, imagining that they like you outwardly very much. And never ever say to yourself that you are ugly. Don't even think so.

You see a question that one of the site users asked the Universe, and the answers to it.

The answers are either people very similar to you, or your complete opposites.
Our project was conceived as a way of psychological development and growth, where you can ask advice from “similar” people and learn from “very different” people what you don’t yet know or haven’t tried.

Do you want to ask the Universe about something important to you?

I don’t remember if I knew this, but forgot, or didn’t know. In short, my free and expanded translation.

A typical situation is that you look through photos from an event, and everyone seems to have turned out okay or great, and only you turned out somehow wrong again. Sound familiar?

The thing is that you are used to seeing yourself in the mirror. That is, you perceive as your face not your face itself, but its mirror image. The photograph does not convey your face as a mirror. Therefore, you see other people in photographs, roughly speaking, the same as in life, but with your face, as it seems to you, there is something wrong, it is somehow unusual, not the same, you do not recognize yourself. Moreover, all other people are facing the same problem! Hence this constant “oh, how great you turned out, and I, as always... - what are you talking about, you turned out great, and I’m so-so.”

No one's face is perfectly symmetrical. Some comb their hair to one side, some have one eye slightly larger than the other or one eyebrow wider than the other, some (Harrison Ford is no exception!) smile on one side of their face a little more than the other, some have a mole. .. If a person’s nose “looks” 2 millimeters to the left, no one notices it, including himself. But if you mirror his photo, you will notice that his nose is looking 4 millimeters to the right than you are used to. You may not understand what exactly is wrong, but you will feel it. The same thing happens when you, having become accustomed to looking at yourself in the mirror, suddenly see a photograph of yourself - your nose suddenly looks in the wrong direction, and even twice as strong.

A simple example. Let's take the Mona Lisa:

The woman in which picture seems more attractive to you?

90% of respondents say that on the left. Because this is a well-known picture, and everyone is used to seeing this woman exactly like this. On the right is a mirror image, and most people think that there is “something wrong” with it. If you show people a photograph of a stranger in the same way, the votes are distributed 50/50.

This is because most people find the more familiar more comfortable. Therefore, when you and your friends look at photographs, everyone sees you in the photographs as they are used to seeing you, and it seems to them that everything is ok. You see someone else instead of yourself, this confuses you, and you begin to consider yourself unphotogenic.

What to do? Look at your photos through a mirror (look at the reflection of the photo). Or flip the picture in Photoshop. If it seems to you that “this is normal,” it means that everything else will be normal, an unmirrored frame.

The second tip is just take more photos. And look more at your own non-mirror photographs. Place a framed photo of your loved one on your desktop. Familiar - comfortable. Get used to your unmirrored image, make it as familiar as the mirror image. If you look at your photographs more often than you look in the mirror, you will quickly get used to it, and the person in your photographs will no longer seem strange and creepy to you. Narcissism is not always bad! :)

By the way, it’s interesting that, due to technology, “vintage” photographs from Shatsa and the companies turn out to be mirror ones. Perhaps this contributes to the fact that our friends in these photographs seem somehow “not from here”, different. If you have Shatsev's photographs of yourself, look at them - there you are the same as in the mirror. Here is a very typical example - notice how different the person looks in Shatsev’s (black and white) photograph. If you mirror it, a fair amount of the “strangeness” will disappear.

Of course, I’m talking here only about one side of the problem - it’s clear that there are crooked photographers, bad angles, poorly placed light, poorly chosen moment of shooting, bad technique, and people themselves can be more or less photogenic. What I'm saying is that if other people praise your photos that you think are bad, they are not necessarily being disingenuous or feeling sorry for you. It's just that what they see in these photographs is not the same as what you see.

My job is to say, yours is to correct!

Often, the first minutes of personal photography are the brightest. The photographer gets to know the person’s nature and sets up the equipment, sometimes he gets distracted by interesting questions and is not afraid to open up, because his sincerity is the beginning of a dialogue, a good conversation, without which it is impossible to create the mood in the frame, convey the essence, reflect the face, reveal the image.

The first minutes on the set are not only words, but also casts - single frames to help the photographer, which help in checking the equipment, shooting angle, props and... assessment, perception... of how and who the person in the frame sees himself. Sometimes the script is ready, but requires modification, adaptation to a holistic image, adjustment to the face, or anatomical features, which the makeup artist deals with before touching the light...

... checking the fidelity of makeup is by no means a given, and not a distracting maneuver; sometimes, and this is not the fault of a colleague, it is necessary to balance the tones - to lead to harmony. But the main thing is not to cross the line beyond which the usual sounds:

- I don’t like myself!

- I don’t recognize myself at all... delete this picture and take another one!

Why don't we like ourselves in photographs?

Of course, such phrases do not always sound; sometimes it is worse - silence. An experienced master, in the process of discussing casts, does not expect a dry answer, he is interested in details, but sometimes there are none - the person is tense, or for the first time in front of the camera. The success of the shooting is called into question, and two thoughts are floating in our heads:

Customer: - Where do I get such circles under my eyes? Did they hire a bad makeup artist, or does the photographer not see the light? But still, there’s something wrong with me... and I look like a fool in this guise, although... I can’t understand the master, maybe he’s not a master?

Photographer: “I would like to understand why I don’t like you.” The look, or maybe the angle, or the image was good in words, but turned out to be a stranger on the set. I would like a response so that I can rule faster and more accurately, but time passes, the mood melts... no matter how sad a person is, it’s a complete disaster...

At moments like these, the fate of the shoot is decided: either it will be a success, or there will be no story - it’s time to go home. To prevent the worst from happening, I recommend opening up - saying as it is, what you think; At such moments you cannot offend the photographer or earn a bad rating. To tell the truth, it’s the other way around: honor and praise to those who know how to understand themselves.

There will be no demagoguery or moralizing in this article. It is based on personal observations and experience, as well as the results of psychological research that will help you understand:

• How does it happen that my neighbor Mashka takes photographs - I like myself, but the photographer Pashka does not.
• How to find the reasons in yourself that prevent you from hearing the photographer, getting used to the image, and liking yourself in the photographs.
• What should I do if I’m used to saying “I don’t like myself” and expecting a miracle, but it turns out worse - the photographer is waiting for an explanation from me.

Note:

Previously there were 7 reasons, now there are 9. This suggests that the author’s opinion is not a dogma and when new thoughts appear, the note is updated.

Causes

Think about it? Get started!

Bustle

Preparing for photography takes more than one day and more than one dialogue. If you think about it, there is a lot of organizational fuss around: the choice of a master and a preliminary meeting, the selection of an image and a script for the shooting day (it is advisable on this day to exclude everything that can distract, anger, or find notes of sadness and negative memories in the soul). A good photograph without this is impossible and hidden nervousness - clenched teeth, tense muscles, a “glassy” look - is not a given, but quite common, but most importantly, a temporary phenomenon. The main thing is to remove it in time, record such a condition, and analyze the reasons.

Another side of stress is the ability to “twist yourself”: the photographer will notice my (fill in as necessary) or the fact that I cried yesterday (or drank an extra glass or two), forgot to look on the Internet for a selection of the best poses and now, I’m afraid, the photographer laughs at my posing (this has no place in our practice). Such thoughts contribute to tension and activation of all the body’s defensive reactions, which leads to detachment from what is happening on the site and, logically, to recording a distorted appearance in the photograph. To get rid of stress in time, forget about what happened before and what will happen after the photo shoot. Just breathe.

Aggression

The final photograph depends on many factors: preparation, location, style of the photographer, the mood of the team and... the person’s attitude towards an outside view. Most people feel awkward - unpleasant or strange (everyone is individual), and this is normal. Photography is a close and subjective look that seeks to peek at the personal in order to make it public, or accessible to a third party (the photographer). Aggression is a normal reaction to an attempt (and it does not matter that we give consent) to penetrate our inner world. It is not normal if the protection does not subside, does not give way to trust in the master, and ends up in the photograph.

Self-esteem

As they say: “I know my shortcomings, but just try to tell me about them!” It's a joke - I don't know, it just works. Everyday life reminds us of a first-person game: we live according to a schedule, sometimes to a rhythm; we work, relax, talk... but, most importantly, we don’t see ourselves and our opinions from the outside. Although... yes, there is a mirror and a selfie stick, and they play along in many ways - they help to match the fictional image and forget the real one. But not everyone takes this into account, including the camera - it records everything: the necessary and the unnecessary. Only the photographer, together with you, can leave the important and remove the unnecessary. Don't shy away from dialogue.

Ignorance of self

Trying to equate yourself to a fashion model is a waste of time. I know I will surprise many, but most of us need an image of ourselves, and not the image of a mannequin, or of a tense and tired person who took on an elaborate pose, ballet and theater steps, and in the end received “richly”, although he paid “beautifully”. Honest photography - which reflects, introduces and captivates with image, mood and character - is a consequence of the answer to the question: “Who am I?” Such a photograph will show our advantages - beautiful eyes, for example. And disadvantages: lip asymmetry. The main thing is to love yourself, and not a fictional image. A photo will help.

Lack of thirst for knowledge

A person is a canvas for a portrait photographer. We believe that his task is to make us a little more beautiful than we really are, but everything is a little different. A good master levels, finds and brings to harmony our strengths and weaknesses. And he writes his story differently, taking into account tools whose correction is unknown to us: the focal length of the lenses is 50-200mm, and not ~14mm, as in our smartphones; pulsed light sources (if we are talking about shooting in a studio) and angles: both lighting and shooting (angles). Yes, many unknowns. But this is a reason to figure it all out - to get to know yourself. Let's return to the dialogue again.

Mistrust of the photographer

It is generally accepted that we are afraid to look bad in a photograph: to appear a couple of kilograms fatter, or even worse - to look stupid. But everything is a little different and we are afraid, so to speak, not of our reflection, but of the one who looks at it. I’ll say it differently - a photographer, an acquaintance or a stranger who sees us as unprotected and, I cannot rule out, capable of deceit. He sees and understands everything, but we are aware, afraid and say timidly: “I don’t like myself.” You cannot lie during photography - in communication with the photographer and the future viewer, because one of them is ourselves.

Wrong choice of photographer

Mistrust is a consequence of an error in choice. How do we usually choose? Mash, does your photographer do portraits too? Otherwise I want it to be beautiful, like yours, and inexpensive. Although in everyday life, so to speak, the rule is appropriate: “Choice is always a compromise.” You may not believe him, but in order to choose an author for yourself and for your task, and not just a typical attitude towards the customer, you need to study the creative style, manners and inner world of the photographer. And in most cases, this time investment pays off, because during the shoot it doesn’t sound like “I don’t like myself.” Only those who are interested and dear to us understand us.

Distorted understanding of style

We have replaced the concept of style with stylization. Style is how the author sees the image, shapes it and what tools of expression he uses to emphasize significant details and thereby place emphasis. Stylization - props, tinting of final photographs and everything that is easy to spend the budget on. We want more beautiful, but we get “richer”; We strive to reflect ourselves and forget the simple truth: “Simplicity helps you focus on the main thing.” And let’s continue - get rid of fear: the gaze from the outside, the discrepancy between what we think about ourselves and what we see... get rid of all the reasons from this list.

Lack of visual literacy

If I don’t like myself in the photographs, then there will be a photographer to blame, bad equipment and, how could we not, the weather, mood, neighbor Masha (here she is **), and anyone else, but not us. But if you think about it for a minute, which of us is excellent at understanding the language of photography? Or, what is more correct to ask, who has heard of it? The author is great - he wrote a story, but how can you read it when you don’t know the language? Unfortunately, the culture of photography has been lost in our country. And in general, to be honest, our culture is bad, hence the desire to make a “diagnosis” - “I don’t like myself,” instead of respectful treatment: “Sorry, maybe I don’t understand something, but why do I…” They say that goodwill eliminates all the reasons on this list.

P.S.

If we talk about personal photography, then a photograph in the eyes of the customer is an image of himself, but from the side of the photographer everything is a little different. Photography is a narrative, a story or an essay, a parable. The consequence of this division is a number of reasons that are described above. I don’t know what the reader will encounter, but I am sure that the best defense against such “don’t like me” is the development of your own artistic taste, an objective understanding of yourself (your appearance and place in society, and its history) and a careful choice of a photographer who is understandable to you , and for him you are not a means of earning money, but a person.

Fear of the camera while taking photos or videos is a very common phenomenon among ordinary people. The photographers have no complaints [...]

Man and woman: the art of love Dilya Enikeeva

"I don't like my appearance"

You will not find a person who is completely satisfied with his appearance, but almost everyone is satisfied with his mind.

One of the most common complexes in adolescence is related to appearance. The famous actress Barbra Streisand said: “I always tried to tell my son more often that he is handsome, smart and wonderful. But he is still far from always confident in himself. The influence of parents on our psyche is profound. “Moreover, Barbra Streisand herself is far from beautiful. She has a long nose, and in general she doesn’t look like a fashion model. After the famous film “Funny Girl,” this nickname stuck to her. And yet, now she is not only a movie star, but also a woman who enjoys great respect in the United States, knows presidents and many Americans listen to her opinion.

It is up to you to explain to your son (daughter) that appearance is of very relative importance for a person’s social status. A person is respected not for beautiful eyes, slender legs or an athletic figure, but for completely different qualities.

A teenager’s assessment of his appearance and his abilities is always subjective and most often underestimated. He doesn’t see what he is like from the outside and how others perceive him.

I know one man who, as a teenager, had a complex - he believed that he had very large, protruding ears. He was very worried about this, constantly looked at himself in the mirror, turning this way and that, and the more he looked at himself, the more he did not like himself and in the end decided that he was almost a freak. In winter, he pulled his hat down deeply, even in warm weather he wore a cap to cover his ears, which he did not like so much. Then he grew his hair long and combed it over his ears. The teachers scolded him and threatened to shave his head - at that time boys at school were forbidden to wear long hair. His parents tried to convince him that there was nothing particularly ugly about his appearance.

He managed to overcome his inferiority complex. He is now 40 years old. His ears remain the same as before, but no one pays attention to it. He is a respected doctor, a talented scientist, has lived in New York for seven years and works as a psychiatrist. He is a strong, confident person. Everyone respects him, but no one pays attention to his appearance. And his wife thinks he’s simply handsome. And she’s right, because appearance doesn’t matter to a man; completely different qualities are valuable in a man. Even if he was almost a freak, that would not stop him from being a wonderful person.

Teenagers have certain reasons to worry about their appearance. Everyone is beautiful when they are children. Mothers and grandmothers are touched by how cute the child is, what round cheeks he has, they hug him, squeeze him, kiss him, saying how pretty, “sweet” he is, beloved, dear.

And when hormonal changes occur in a teenager’s body, the previously charming child suddenly turns into an “ugly duckling.” And this happens to almost everyone. The plump rosy cheeks disappear, and for some reason the nose becomes longer. Previously, his skin was smooth as a peach, but suddenly it becomes oily and nasty pimples appear. The hair becomes greasy and does not want to be styled.

From about 12-13 years of age, a teenager begins to grow by leaps and bounds. Arms and legs grow, hands and feet become disproportionately large compared to the still thin arms and legs, elbows and knees become sharp and protrude.

Body growth occurs so quickly that a teenager cannot yet adapt to the new size of his body. He becomes angular, his movements are disproportionate, he is awkward, he bumps into objects and drops everything, he still does not know how to measure his movements and coordinate them.

I remember how it happened to me. My parents and grandmothers say that as a child I was a lovely child with a round face, huge blue eyes, plump bright lips, soft skin and a bright blush, thick dark hair. There wasn't a single woman who didn't want to cuddle me.

But I don’t remember what I was like as a child, but I remember well as a teenager. I seemed incredibly ugly to myself. It seemed to me that there was only a huge nose on my face. To myself, I called him a “snobbler.” My smile is asymmetrical, and my nose is slightly to one side. And also these damned pimples that popped up just before a date with a boy or before a school party!.. I read somewhere that if you cut the ends of your eyelashes, they will become thicker and longer. I took scissors and trimmed my eyelashes, as a result they began to stick out like bristles. I didn’t like my braids and I went to the hairdresser and they cut my hair to my shoulders, and then I wore a ponytail that was fashionable in our time, which didn’t suit me at all, and besides, I cut myself a stupid bang, which doesn’t suit me at all to the face. As a result of all these attempts to get rid of complexes about my appearance, I began to look like a real “ugly duckling” - long, awkward, with a stupid hairstyle. All these manipulations did not make my nose smaller or more beautiful, and it did not increase my self-confidence.

Now my nose is no smaller, perhaps much larger, than then, and is still crooked, my smile is also asymmetrical, but all this has not bothered me for a long time. I got rid of my complexes on my own and I am very proud of it (“the recipe” for how to increase self-esteem is given in the sections “The Hidden from the Life of a Man” and “The Hidden from the Life of a Woman”).

This happens to all teenagers - everyone goes through teenage complexes, but with age, the feeling of inferiority goes away.

Typically, teenagers' concerns about their appearance are greatly exaggerated, even if there is some basis for this, since all people in adolescence are “ugly ducklings.”

All defects in appearance pass over time, and then, when a person becomes an adult, he laughs about his experiences. And the acne goes away, and the skin becomes less greasy, and the long nose is no longer so noticeable, and the hair becomes manageable, and the angularity disappears somewhere.

But it happens that a teenager overestimates the importance of flaws in his appearance or sees flaws that actually do not exist, and no one can convince him that this is not so. In psychiatric language this is called dysmorphophobia, and this is already a pathology. Here, perhaps, you cannot do without the help of a psychiatrist.

A classic case of dysmorphophobia is the famous Michael Jackson. How much plastic surgery he underwent to change his appearance! Why he didn’t like her so much is known only to himself. In my opinion, he has not become more beautiful, but he has acquired a lot of problems, he is afraid of the sun, since the skin on his face is transplanted, he is afraid of any infection, doctors say that as a result of numerous plastic surgeries, the bones of his nose have become so thin that they will not withstand not the slightest pressure. In fact, he would be more helped by a psychiatrist rather than a plastic surgeon.

Height is a problem for many teenagers. Girls usually have a complex if they think they are too tall.

At the age of 12, my height was 164 cm, I wore size 37 shoes. My mother had exactly the same height and shoe size, and my parents were simply horrified, what would happen to me next, what if I grew up to be such a big guy that my only future was basketball. I was taller than everyone in the class, I was terribly complex about this and slouched. And yet, nothing bad happened to me. Now my height is 166 cm, and by modern standards I am not only not tall, but simply a woman of average height. And how many worries I had about the fact that I was such a “big guy”!

Boys, on the contrary, worry that they are shorter than their peers. But now your height does not matter, because the development of each teenager is individual. At first, he may lag a little behind his accelerator peers, but then he catches up with them in height. Growth continues until the age of 18-19, so you still have everything ahead of you.

For Vitya, the most hated subject at school was physical education. In the ranks of his classmates, Vitya stood last, and every time the teacher’s command to “line up!” sounded, Vitya, burning with humiliation, trudged to the very end of the line.

Many accelerator girls were almost a full head taller than him and looked down on him. The guys were much stronger than him. One day, one of the tallest physically developed classmates took Vitya in his arms and carried him across the entire hall. Vitya burst into tears and ran to the toilet. For a long time they could not calm him down and persuade him to return to class. Although the teacher severely punished the tactless classmate and forced him to apologize to Vitya, it was very difficult for him morally.

And two years later he not only caught up with his peers, but also surpassed many. Now he is tall and laughs at his former complexes.

Girls begin to grow earlier than boys, and at the age of 12-15 years they are usually much taller than their classmates, and they have a complex about this.

One mother told me that her daughter was in “kindergarten.” Her daughter, a tall, beautiful 7th grader, enjoyed the attention of her classmates, all of whom were almost half a head shorter than her. Returning from school, the girl proudly walked in front, and the boys walked behind her, small to small, as if they were lined up by height.

Usually, by the 9th-10th grade, all the children “catch up” and even those who were previously considered short in stature catch up with their peers. It’s just that some guys are accelerators, and some are not.

Girls also have complexes no less than boys. They also care about appearance and how boys treat them. Boys fall in love with some girls, but not others. And for a girl this is a very painful situation.

Dina, 14 years old, told me that she is friends with her classmate Tanya, who has a lot of fans. Dina believes that there is nothing special about Tanya, but for some reason it is to her that the guys write notes and make dates, and Dina looks no worse, but she is on the sidelines and envies her.

They live in the same building, grew up together since childhood, and always went to school together. Sometimes Tanya takes her on dates, and she goes with the boy in front, and Dina trails behind. If Tanya goes on a date alone, then she then tells her friend how it all happened, and Dina is quietly jealous.

Some girls are not particularly remarkable in appearance, but they are lively, confident and enjoy the attention of boys. And others are outwardly attractive, but for some reason boys don’t like them and worry about it.

Just as it is important for boys who is the best, so it is important for a girl to be the best. If she is the second beauty in the class, then this does not suit her, she wants to be the first beauty. Even if she also has fans, and the other one has more, then she already has a complex.

One of the most pressing problems of teenage girls and the cause of complexes is small breasts. If a girl’s breasts are at least 1-2 sizes, then this is a matter of special pride. She is already buying herself a bra, showing off her beautiful lingerie to her friends, and everyone else, who is still a size zero or is still flat as a board, is desperately jealous of her.

Small breasts are such a problem for girls that even all other advantages are eclipsed in comparison.

Girls envy each other, although there may be no reason for this. They are more envious than boys, and sometimes they get jealous over little things, and not just because one gets the boys' attention and the other doesn't.

Just as guys never tell each other about their lack of self-confidence, girls try to hide their complexes and disguise them with ostentatious bravado and independence.

Some girls look very self-confident in order to hide their complexes and their lack of self-confidence with such behavior. In psychiatry, this is called overcompensation - when a person, feeling his weakness in something, tries to hide it with feigned bravado. Girls who feel embarrassed about their appearance begin to wear bright makeup, have an extravagant hairstyle, dress flashily, wear super minis and high heels. Our shortcomings make us more attractive to the opposite sex than our virtues.

§ 23.5. Health. Well-being. Appearance Health is a criterion of well-being. For all its obvious importance, Health ended up in fifth place here. However, this is the central cell in the Lo Shu chart, and this aspect really occupies a central position in life

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As a rule, in order for a person to appear beautifully in a photo, the lens must be above eye level. Here's a clear example:

Hold the camera a little higher (if it's a selfie), ask the photographer to raise it, find a taller friend to take your photo, or bend your knees a little. Also, tilt your chin down slightly (but not too much) - no one wants to see what's in your nose.

2. Inappropriate focal length

Faces look different depending on the focal length of the lens (18mm, 35mm, 200mm, etc.).

A good range for natural looking photography is somewhere between 35mm and 85mm. But everyone's faces are different. That's why sometimes people think they look great in the mirror, but they look scary in photographs.

To find the best focal length for you, ask a friend to take a camera with a zoom and take several photos with you, filling the frame with their face each time. Then you look through them and choose what you like best.

Try medium to longest focal length. To get your ideal range, ask the photographer to either move back and zoom out, or move in and zoom out.

3. Eyes don't smile

When you want to smile in a photo, note that the eyes are just as important as the mouth. To “smile with your eyes,” try squinting your lower eyelid and lowering your upper eyelid a little.

Practice in front of a mirror. See how much more attractive you look.

4. Incorrect body position

Photographing your head and shoulders at 90 degrees to the camera can make you look a little angular. Turn one shoulder slightly toward the lens. Your shoulders should be at an angle of approximately 30 degrees to the camera. Here, for example, is a portrait from a professional photo shoot by Dr. Anthony Romeo:

This pose will help you look slimmer. Also, raise your shoulders, throw them back and lower them. This will lengthen your neck a little and improve the appearance of your upper torso. We don't need slouched shoulders, right?

5. You smiled for too long, so you looked weird.

Surely you know that it is difficult to force yourself to smile on command for a long time. The longer you stretch your smile, usually, the more artificial it looks. This happens especially often when shooting group portraits. Ask the photographer to do a “3, 2, 1” countdown before taking the photo. Then you will force yourself to smile and pose in just one or two seconds.

6. You didn’t notice that you were being photographed or weren’t prepared for it.

When you're being photographed, give your full attention to the process of shooting to avoid an awkwardly open mouth or crazy eyes in the frame. Don't take your eyes off the camera. Do not answer if you are approached at this moment. Try not to blink. It's only a few seconds, so focus.

7. You made a face

Photographer Adam Edmond.

If you stick out your tongue, stretch out your face, puff out your cheeks, and the like, you look stupid. Resist the urge to grimace at the camera unless you want to take a portrait that will make you laugh and want to hide it away. Ask the photographer to take a couple of shots where you are serious in one and not so serious in the other. Compare which one you like best.

8. You only took one shot and you didn’t check it.

Don’t hesitate to ask for another shot if you feel like you ruined the previous one: you blinked, yawned, etc. Ask them to show you how you turned out in the photo, and let them take another shot if you don’t like this one. Show interest in creating a beautiful image.

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